Wednesday morning I sat in the office with a young woman whose heart was crushed and the vitality of life was no longer pumping through the veins and arteries of her soul. She could only whimper and feel the tears run down her cheeks. Her best girlfriend was with her and spoke for her.
Her husband had left the marriage six months ago. He fell in love with another woman. As she attempted to get back on her feet, she found herself on a dating sight and developed a relationship with what she believed to be, a great guy. . .and they had so much in common. He made her feel special. He made her feel beautiful. He made her forget the sadness and pain. . .and her loneliness. She trusted him. She was falling in love.
They had been dating for a couple of months and just spent a romantic weekend together. The following day he sent a text. “I’m sorry, it’s not about you. My ex girlfriend called and I’m getting back with her.” That was it. That was all he said. Of course she couldn’t wrap her head around his words, much less her heart, so she called him to talk; but he wouldn’t answer. So, she blamed herself and was drowning again in despair and a self-contempt that was taking her life away.
“He came to the house of the man whose daughter had died. Her friends and family were deeply distressed. . . crying and wailing greatly. And He said to them, ‘Why are you so full of anguish? The girl is not dead, but she is sleeping’. And they laughed at Him. Then He went into the house with the girl’s parents and went in to where she was lying in her burial clothes. He took her by the hand and said to her, ‘Talitha Cumi’ which interpreted means, ‘Little girl, I say to you, arise’ and straightway the girl arose and walked.” Mark 5:38-42
The woman’s best friend is a blessing. She sat there and genuinely shared all of what is really true about her. “You are a beautiful person inside and out. You are a wonderful mom. You are one of the most intelligent people I know. You have such a great sense of humor. You are kind and you are caring. . .and I am so honored to have you as my friend. You have been there for me whenever I needed help.” She shared much more. I’m sure it was all true. It was an objective perspective of what others see about her. It was a pep talk. . .but it fell on deaf ears and I watched her gasp, like it was her last breath.
Pep: energize; enthusiasm; drive; get up and go; life; animation; vitality; vivacity; fire; exuberance; gusto; stimulate; revitalize. A good pep talk can do all of that. Words intended to heal a crushed and broken heart. Words that can inspire and give power. Words filled with light to bring sight to the blind. . .to enable the deaf to hear. . .and to energize the lifeless. Words to revitalize and stimulate and move a person from despair to hope.
“There was in the city of Joppa, a woman named Tabitha. She was full of good works and kind deeds. And it came to pass that she was sick and died. Her family laid her in an upper chamber to prepare the body for burial. Some men went to another bordering town to get Peter, hoping he could help. He went with them to Joppa and arrived at the house and went up to the chamber where the young woman was. Peter knelt down next to her and prayed. He turned to the body and said, ‘Tabitha, arise’. . . and she heard him. . . and she opened her eyes. When she saw Peter, she sat up and he gave her his hand and he lifted her up. They walked out together, hand in hand and Peter presented her, alive.” Acts 9:36-41
The name of the woman in my office Wednesday is not Tabitha. . .but she is a Tabitha. The New Testament, Greek definition of her name is, “a young gazelle (as beautiful); an army within her; a woman of prominence; full of splendor.” That is who she is. . .and she does need to know that. . .and she does need the Faith to believe that. . .so, she does need a Pep Talk.
“From that time, many of his disciples left Him. Then Jesus said to the twelve apostles, ‘Will you also leave Me?’ Then Peter answered Him. ‘Lord, to whom should we go? To whom should we listen to? Who speaks words like you, Lord? Only You have the words that create miracles and brings Life and Light into the soul.” John 6:67-68
It was God’s Pep Talk that created the earth and the entire universe from nothing. He Spoke it into existence. When you find yourself dressed in your grave clothes, like the woman in my office, you are like Tabitha. . .simply dead and nothing. And then, He Speaks to you. He creates a new being. A beautiful gazelle, full of the Power of an army. . .filled with the Fruit of Heaven. Loved by God. Always words of Love. Only words of Love.